The Girl In The Red Boots
Judith Ruskay Rabinor, Phd
Publisher : She Writes Press (May 4, 2021)
Language : English
Paperback : 288 pages
ISBN-10 : 1647420407
ISBN-13 : 978-1647420406
Item Weight : 11.4 ounces
Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.9 x 8.5 inches
Can a mother be both loving and selfish? Caring and thoughtless? Deceitful and devoted? These are the questions that fuel psychologist Dr. Judy Rabinor’s quest to understand her ambivalence toward her mother.
While leading a seminar exploring the importance of the mother-daughter relationship, Dr. Judy Rabinor, an eating disorder expert, is blindsided by a memory of a childhood trauma. Realizing how this buried trauma has resonated through her life, she sets off to heal herself. The Girl in the Red Boots weaves together tales from Rabinor’s psychotherapy practice and her life, helping readers understand how painful childhood experiences can linger and leave emotional scars. In the process, Rabinor traces her own journey becoming a wounded healer and ultimately making peace with her mother, and herself.
Not a traditional self-help book outlining “steps” to reconcile or forgive one’s mother, The Girl in the Red Boots is a poignant memoir filled with hard-won life lessons, including the fact that it’s never too late to let go of hurts and disappointments and develop compassion for yourself—and even for your mother.
Review: The Girl In The Red Boots by Judith Ruskay Rabinor, PhD
Making healthy choices, emotionally, can be difficult.
Have you ever had a situation that has haunted you? Has the drama of it kept you on edge or made you feel numb?
The Girl In The Red Boots relates the complexity of a mother-daughter relationship and affords us an opportunity to see how our own perceptions can influence conflict.
Through the outpouring of Rabinor's journey, she shows readers the emotional baggage that can occur when something out of our control happens.
We learn many things which are beneficial!
We start with how and why it is important to identify our feelings.
During this process, we recognize emotional impulsivity can drive us to behave irrationally. We see how being reckless and not thinking of the future can affect us and those around us.
Holding back feelings to avoid pain, or to conform to family expectations, may backfire. We may do and say things that we will regret when creating an attachment to our emotions. This will make it all the more difficult to resolve the conflict.
In closing, we see how therapy and leaning on one's own support system, can assist in resolving difficult, often heartbreaking, issues.
I received an Advanced Reader Copy of this book from Anna Sacca, Senior Publicity Manager at FSB Associates.
About the Author
Judith Ruskay Rabinor, PhD, is a clinician, author, writing coach, speaker, and workshop leader. In addition to her New York City private psychotherapy practice, she offers remote consultations for writers, clinicians, and families. She has published dozens of articles for both the public and professionals and has authored two other books, A Starving Madness: Tales of Hunger, Hope and Healing (Gurze Books, 2002) and Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Ex and Yes, Your Ex! (New Harbinger Publications, 2012).